Loss in the woods
Updated: Apr 23
It was 2:30 AM, and a howling east wind slapped snow against our windows.
Suddenly there was a “Crack!" then "ssssss-CRASH!!” The crash sounded like it was right behind our house. I poked my husband and whispered, “What was that?”
“Number three,” he mumbled.
“Number three? Three what?”
“Third tree we lost tonight.” He paused and added, “This proves that when a tree falls in the woods, it makes a sound.” And he rolled over and went to sleep.
Not me! I was wide awake, alert to loss in the woods.
Over the next hour or so, I heard trees #4, #5 and #6, go crash, crash, crash. Number 7 was close enough to shake the house. Numbers 8 and 9 were seconds apart, falling like dominoes.
After hearing a tenth tree fall, I drifted off to sleep, feeling sad.
The fallen trees remind me that loss and destruction are a part of the cycle of life. Nature is constantly recycling resources like water and nutrients through large scale events like storms and floods and through tiny fungi and bacteria.
Loss is essential to regeneration. In the photo on the right, the two trees that fell will allow more sunlight to reach one of the young trees we planted a few years ago (see blue circle) which we had fenced to keep out deer who want to nibble them. When the ground thaws, I'll adjust the fence and that tree will grow!
Through time, I'm learning to embrace loss instead of resist it. If I allow myself to let go and grief, healing comes. I find a sense of meaning that gives me energy for nurturing new things in my life.
The activity I often use with groups who feel stuck, the Ecocycle, makes this clear too. It helps groups realize that actively abandoning, destroying, or recycling what no longer works would give them the resources they need to nurture new initiatives. They may first need to process their grief about it, and I help them with that too.
Are you or your organization experiencing loss? Are you unable to let go of things that no longer work for you? Try the Ecocycle yourself or with a group. Allow the tree that falls in your woods not just to make a sound but also to nurture new life. I'm offering a free workshop on May 9, 2023, so you can try out the Ecocycle. It's on zoom at noon Central time. Learn more and sign up here.
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